10 TIPS TO DATE A DOCTOR

Flirting is truly an art. Even if you’ve mastered the skill, there are situations when you can be caught off-guard.  Coming in for a consult with a real cute doctor can be one of those tricky situations.

Timing, knowing the right words to say and the ability to read body language is important. 

Here are 10 subtle ways to hit on your physician...

1. Smile!

A smile can jumpstart the flirting action. Greeting your doctor with a smile, gives off a good vibe and make you both feel comfortable instantly.

Do not go overboard though and force it all throughout your discussion. Showcase your wonderful smile in good timing. Smiling when your doctor is saying you need to have an appendectomy will obviously make you look silly!

2. The casual chat.

Being able to keep up a friendly conversation with a person you barely know can be challenging. But if you’re interested in your doctor you have to turn the charm on and start to chit chat a bit. 

Don’t try too hard. Telling your doctor about how you’re feeling lately is a good start and it's something that your doctor expects you to discuss.

If you haven’t been feeling too good, let your doctor know and seriously listen to what he or she has to say. Try not to forget that you’re there to get a proper consultation. Hitting on your doctor should be your second priority, unless it’s been months since your last date ;) 

You can also share funny things that happened to you during the week or during the day. Keep it brief and give your doctor a chance to react to what you say – your doctor's reaction will give you a clue if the attraction is mutual. So do not hog the spotlight, let your doctor talk too.

While chatting, don't forget about eye contact. It shows confidence and also it indicates that you’re interested in the person you’re talking to. 

3. Spill some personal tidbits.
You want to get your doctor interested in you, so tell him or her a little bit about yourself. Choose carefully what personal info to share, try to keep the conversation light - hold off on sharing any embarrassing or scandalous experiences.


4. Subtly let the doctor know you’re single and available.
Here’s a couple of tips on how to do this.

You can get him to notice that you’re ring free. Touch your face a few times during the consult or pretend that your eye is itchy.

Or you can squeeze this on the conversation…

“I drove myself here, that’s the downside of being single. There’s no one around to drive you to the doctor.”

5. Fish for info.

Before seriously flirting with the doc, you need to find out for sure if he or she is unattached.

You can ask questions like...

“So doc what keeps you busy when you’re not wearing that white gown?”

“I’ve always wondered about something, do girlfriends or boyfriends of doctors go to them for consult? “

Or, if you’re having your consult in the evening, you can say...

“You’re a lifesaver doc, please thank your girlfriend (or boyfriend) for me for letting you work nights.”


6. Find a common interest.

Look around your doctor's office and find a common interest. When you find one, appear that you're pleasantly surprised that you have something in common with him or her.

If you find that you both play tennis, then that’s opening for you to invite him or her for a date match.


7. The flirt laugh.

You need to give yourself away a little bit and encourage your doctor to also make a move. Laughing flirtatiously is a great way to make it obvious that you’re attracted. Just don’t overdo it, that would make the situation awkward.


8. Flatter your doctor.

There’s nothing like a sincere compliment to flatter and disarm anyone. Throw compliments appropriately and it will help your chances in getting a date with your doctor or even a free consult☺

Getting examined by a handsome doctor can give you that butterfly feeling in your stomach.

9. A slight touch sends the right signals. 

When the doc hands your prescription, use your finger pads to touch his or her hand lightly. A light touch is enough to show that you trust him and that you’re comfortable. Don’t linger too long though, pull away at the right time and ignore the butterflies on your tummy :). You don’t want to seem too eager.


10. Ask for his number

After all the flirting and you’re quite sure that there is something there, don’t be shy in asking for your doctor’s number. If you’re confident enough, hint that you’re getting it for “social” calls.

What has money got to do with Love?

Love may make the world go ‘round, but disagreements over money can stop even the best relationship dead in its tracks.
My research shows that 7 out of 10 couples report that money causes tension in their relationship. That may be why so many couples avoid the topic entirely - particularly in the early stages of a relationship.
Ignoring the topic would have been the easy way out for Pam and Larry, who met on SeniorPeopleMeet.com and now are married. Three months into their long-distance relationship, Larry brought up the topic because money had been such a major issue in a prior marriage.
Their advice? Start talking about money right away, particularly if it has been an issue in past relationships. "In my husband's case, it was such an issue that it was good that he communicated it so that I understood," says Pam. "I think you can tell a lot about a person by the way they handle their money."
So how do you begin talking about the topic of money without damaging what otherwise may be a deeply fulfilling relationship? Here are some additional tips.

• Make Sure the Issue is Really About Money. Too often, disagreements about money have little to do with money itself and more to do with issues of control, security, self esteem and love. Think carefully as you discuss money issues with your partner to make sure there isn't a larger problem at the core. Be honest with yourself about how you personally feel about money. Ask yourself how your parents dealt with money, what it meant to you when you were growing up, and how you dealt with it in past relationships. Money is a tangible part of a relationship, so it is easy to project emotional issues onto concrete money matters.
• Find a Neutral Time to Talk Money. Couples don't usually talk openly about money. The goal with your new partner is to have a calm, relaxed discussion when there's no particular money issue at hand. Sit down with your partner and have what I call a "money talk." Together, discuss different money scenarios and how each of you might address or resolve the scenarios (e.g., overdrawn checking account, fired from a high paying job, lost credit card, the pros and cons of joint or separate checking accounts in a committed relationship, etc.). If you have concerns about your new partner's spending habits, financial decisions or role in managing money, express those thoughts during this talk as well.
Bear in mind that not all people are comfortable talking about money right away in a relationship. Be patient but persistent. If you bring up the topic several times and your partner still gets defensive, "that might be a ‘red flag' that he or she may not be able to have honest communications about other things," said Andrea, who as a widow went on SeniorPeopleMeet.com and found someone special. She brought up the topic of money within weeks of meeting Bob after she realized her datingrelationship was developing into a long-term relationship.
• Understand Your Partner's Perspective. Studies show that when it comes to money, men and women often have different views. Women see it as a sign of security and stability. They like to save for emergencies and become worried when financial problems arise. Men take more risks with money and see money issues as a threat to their self esteem. Try to understand your partner's perspective. Compromise is often essential. It is fine to disagree on some issues, but don't let them get in the way of your overall goals as a couple.
• Set Rules and Limits. Once you become a committed couple, it is important to work together to come up with general spending rules or limits. Couples can pick from a number of possibilities. For instance, you can agree on a threshold amount (like $100, $200), which you can spend without needing to report or consult one another. Above that, you need to discuss it before the item is purchased. Alternatively, for some couples it is important to keep a budget, which includes tracking all spending on a weekly or monthly basis. Discuss these options with your partner.

Dating Myths and Surprising Truths

Recent research has been proving some conventional courting wisdom to be totally bogus. When it comes to getting guys, we break down what works and what's old school.

BY MOLLY TRIFFIN

Kelly Ryerson

MYTH: When you're prepping to go out on the prowl, put on a barely there outfit — men like women who show lots and lots of skin.
TRUTH: A new study published in the journalBehaviour found that, to reel in the boys, the ideal amount of flesh you should reveal is 40 percent. A crop top and mini crosses the line from seductive to skanky.

MYTH: If you're into a guy, make the first move on him.
TRUTH: Smile at him, but then wait for him to come to you. A Northwestern University study discovered that the person who does the approaching usually ends up falling harder.

MYTH: While chatting him up on a date, focus on your shared interests.
TRUTH: Discussing stuff you have in common willmake you feel connected. However, it's also key to talk about interesting personal experiences and hobbies that are different from his. According to experts, being exposed to new and exciting things increases the chemical dopamine in our bodies, and that in turn builds interest and passion.

MYTH: Eat a low-calorie meal like veggies and salad when out with a guy in order to show that you're attractive and take good care of yourself.
TRUTH: Despite a recent study from McMaster University in Canada that found women tend to do just that, most guys actually go for chicks who will eat a real meal in front of them, says Scott Kudia, author of If This Is Love, Why Am I Unhappy? Not that you should stuff your face, but men want to be with someone who will be herself around him. Nibbling at rabbit food reads as phony and guarded.

MYTH: The first thing that grabs guys' attention is your eyes.
TRUTH: In a Cosmo and AskMen.com poll, 62 percent of guys notice a hot body. Only 27 percent are lured in by seductive eyes. (See myth #1 for a tip on how to show off your curves in the sexiest way.)

MYTH: It's a good idea to "friend" a guy you're dating, so that you can get to know each other better and feel closer.
TRUTH: A study published in CyberPsychology and Behavior found that being Facebook friends with the person you're seeing increases relationship jealousy (ahem, like by clicking through pics of each other with your respective exes). It also leads to a sense of over familiarity that can doom a relationship, particularly in the early stages.

MYTH: Don't talk about yourself too much on a date or you'll seem narcissistic. Instead, ask him plenty of questions.
TRUTH: You should absolutely show sincere interest in him. But it's equally essential to refer to yourself during conversation. Men go for women who use the word I frequently, according to a study published in Personal Relationships. Researchers surmise it's because that term indicates self-disclosure, which promotes intimacy and closeness. It also reflects your independence — a huge turn-on.